Online counselling across the UK and worldwide
Online domestic abuse counselling in the UK and worldwide
If a partner or ex-partner has controlled, frightened, belittled or hurt you, the effects can last long after the relationship ends. Domestic abuse counselling gives you a safe, private space to make sense of what happened and rebuild your confidence, at your own pace.
If you are in danger now
I’m not an emergency service. If you are in immediate danger, call your local emergency number: 999 in the UK, or 112 in Spain, Portugal and across the EU.
These free, confidential helplines can also support you:
- UK: National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge for women, on 0808 2000 247 (24 hours). Men’s Advice Line on 0808 8010 327 (Monday to Friday, 10am to 5pm).
- Spain: call 016 (24 hours, available in English) or WhatsApp 600 000 016, the national helpline for violence against women.
- Portugal: the national domestic violence helpline on 800 202 148 (24 hours), or APAV victim support on 116 006.
- Anywhere else: the NO MORE Global Directory lists helplines for people of all genders in more than 200 countries.
If someone checks your phone or computer, consider using a device they can’t access.
Does this sound familiar?
- You were made to doubt your own memory or judgement.
- Your money, phone, friendships or movements were monitored or controlled.
- You walked on eggshells to avoid an outburst.
- You still feel anxious, ashamed or on edge, even though you have left.
- You miss the person who hurt you, and that confuses you.
- You are not sure whether what happened “counts” as abuse.
What domestic abuse does
Domestic abuse is not only physical. It includes coercive control, emotional and psychological abuse, financial abuse and sexual abuse. Over time it can wear away your confidence until you no longer trust your own judgement.
You don’t need to be certain of the label to talk about it. If it still affects you, it is worth talking about.
How I can help
Trauma-informed counselling puts your safety and choice first. You set the pace, and you never have to share more than you are ready to. Together we can:
- understand the patterns of control, so you can stop blaming yourself
- calm the anxiety, hypervigilance and sleep problems that often follow
- make sense of the trauma bond, and why leaving or staying away is so hard
- rebuild trust in your own judgement
- set boundaries and feel safer in future relationships
About your counsellor
I’m Natalie, a trauma-informed counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist. I’ve supported English-speaking adults online for four years. My training includes a Diploma in Intimate Partner Violence (University of Glasgow), specialist training in narcissistic abuse recovery and Somatic Trauma-Informed Coaching.
How it works
- Book a free 30-minute chat. We talk about what’s going on and what you’d like to change. There’s no pressure to continue.
- Weekly 50-minute sessions on Zoom. From home, or anywhere private where you feel comfortable. WhatsApp video or a phone call are available if you prefer.
- Support between sessions. By agreement, you can book short check-ins when things feel hard.
I offer sessions seven days a week, from 7am to 8pm UK time, including evenings and weekends.
Fees: sessions are from £55 for 50 minutes, with monthly packages available. Your first 30-minute chat is free.
Free guide
Was it emotional abuse? 20 signs to look for
A gentle checklist and five first steps towards feeling like yourself again. Free to download.
Workbooks to use on your own
Rebuilding Your Next Chapter
A recovery guide, a guided journal and a planning workbook for life after an abusive, controlling or harmful relationship. Use them in any order, at your own pace.
Domestic abuse counselling FAQs
Do I have to have left the relationship?
No. You can come to counselling whether you have left, are thinking about leaving, or aren’t sure what you want. I won’t tell you what to do.
Is online counselling private?
Sessions are confidential, within the limits I explain before we begin. You choose where and when you take the call, and we can agree how I contact you so that it is safe.
Can counselling help years after the abuse?
Yes. Many people come long after a relationship has ended, when they notice it still affects their confidence, trust or relationships.
Do you work with men?
Yes. I work with adults of any gender who have experienced abuse from a partner or family member.
How much does domestic abuse counselling cost?
Sessions are from £55 for 50 minutes, with monthly packages available. Your first 30-minute chat is free.
Can I have sessions if I live outside the UK?
Yes. I work with English-speaking adults worldwide, including expats in Spain and Portugal, from 7am to 8pm UK time, seven days a week.
Ready to talk?
Book a free 30-minute chat. There’s no commitment. It’s simply a chance to ask questions and see whether we’re a good fit.
You may also find my pages on narcissistic abuse recovery and trauma counselling helpful, along with my self-help resources.