Online counselling across the UK and worldwide
Counselling for self-confidence and people pleasing
You put everyone else first, find it hard to say no and worry about what people think of you. Counselling helps you build your self-worth, set boundaries and feel more confident being yourself.
Does this sound familiar?
- You say yes when you want to say no.
- You feel guilty or anxious when you put your own needs first.
- You constantly seek approval, or fear letting people down.
- Your inner critic is loud and harsh.
- You avoid conflict at almost any cost.
- You’re not sure who you are outside of looking after others.
Where people pleasing comes from
People pleasing often starts as a way to stay safe, for example growing up in a critical or unpredictable home, or in relationships where your needs weren’t welcome.
Low self-confidence is usually learned, which means it can be unlearned. Counselling helps you understand those old patterns and practise new ones in everyday life.
How I can help
Together we can:
- understand where your people pleasing and self-doubt come from
- quieten your inner critic and build self-compassion
- practise setting boundaries and saying no without guilt
- communicate your needs clearly and calmly
- build confidence step by step in work, relationships and social situations
About your self-confidence counsellor
I’m Natalie, a trauma-informed counsellor and clinical hypnotherapist. I’ve supported English-speaking adults online for four years. I draw on CBT, person-centred counselling, inner child work and NLP, shaped around you.
How it works
- Book a free 30-minute chat. We talk on Zoom about what’s going on and whether we’re a good fit. There’s no pressure to continue.
- Weekly 50-minute sessions on Zoom, seven days a week, 7am to 8pm UK time (8am to 9pm CET). WhatsApp video or a phone call are also available.
- Support between sessions. By agreement, you can book free 15-minute check-ins when things feel hard.
Fees: sessions are from £55 for 50 minutes, with monthly packages available. Your first 30-minute chat is free.
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“Working with Natalie Jane through CBT has been incredibly supportive. In just a few short weeks, I’ve become more self aware of my unhelpful belief patterns and gained practical strategies to change this.”
Self-confidence and people pleasing FAQs
Is people pleasing a trauma response?
It can be. For some people it develops as a ‘fawn’ response to growing up or living with criticism, conflict or abuse. For others it’s a learned habit. Either way, it can change.
Will setting boundaries damage my relationships?
Healthy relationships usually get stronger with boundaries. We’ll practise ways to set them kindly and clearly.
How long until I feel more confident?
Many people notice changes within a few weeks of practising new skills between sessions.
How much does self-confidence counselling cost?
Sessions are from £55 for 50 minutes, with monthly packages available. Your first 30-minute chat is free.
Can I have sessions if I live outside the UK?
Yes. I work online with English-speaking adults in the UK and worldwide, including expats in Spain and Portugal, seven days a week from 7am to 8pm UK time.
Ready to talk?
Book a free 30-minute chat. There’s no commitment. It’s simply a chance to ask questions and see whether we’re a good fit.
You may also find these pages helpful: narcissistic abuse recovery, anxiety counselling and my self-help resources.
I’m not an emergency service. If you’re in crisis or worried about your safety, call your local emergency number (999 in the UK, 112 in the EU). In the UK you can also call NHS 111 (choose option 2 for mental health in England and Wales) or Samaritans on 116 123, any time.